When a man impregnates a woman to whom he is not married, he is attaching himself to a unique set of circumstances that will likely end in disaster. That’s the bad news! The good news is he has co-created a life that will either grow up resenting or loving him as father. The fact that the child was created outside of marriage pales in relation to the potential that child offers to the world.
What men must understand in these situations is that he is the progenitor of possibilities; that child will likely carry his seed into greatness! All the child needs is a constant diet of positive reinforcement from the male side – regardless of his relationship with the mother! He or she needs direction, guidance, love, understanding and reproof. Add to this mixture a modicum of financial support and you have a child destined for greatness!
What most absentee fathers miss is the fact that his seed carries a degree of upward mobility, greatness and meaning to future generations that far outweigh the present circumstances. Unmarried fathers must be present and accounted for in the lives of their offspring!
W. Eric Croomes is executive director of Their Eyes Were Watching Daddy, a non-profit unmarried and divorced fathers support group. Join Eric Saturday, June 18, 2011 from 2p to 4p at the Dock Book Store in
for a book signing as he discusses issues regarding black men. Fort Worth, Texas
for more information.